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There is a tribe of women out there who wear these same invisible scars. They are waiting to hold your hand. You are still a wife. You are still a partner. You are just learning how to love a man who isn't physically here. That isn't weakness. That is the deepest strength I have ever seen. mourning wife
You will never be the woman you were before. That woman died alongside him. But you are becoming someone new: a woman who has seen the abyss and climbed out. A woman who carries her husband in her heartbeat, not just her memory. While this journey is yours to walk, you do not have to walk it alone. If you find that you cannot eat for days, if you are having thoughts of harming yourself to be with him, or if the fog never lifts—please reach out to a professional. Call a crisis line. Find a widows' support group. mourning-wife-grief-journey There is a tribe of women out
The Unspeakable Silence: A Letter to the Mourning Wife You are still a partner
This post is not a guide to "fix" your grief. There is no fixing. This is simply a letter to the mourning wife, to remind you that you are not going crazy. You are just going through the impossible. Right now, you might be drowning in the logistics. The phone calls, the paperwork, the casseroles you can’t eat. Everyone tells you how "strong" you are. You smile and nod, but inside, you are screaming.
You might find yourself talking to him. Out loud. In the car. In the shower. This is not crazy. This is a love that didn’t die just because his body did.
If you are reading this, and you are that woman—the one wearing the ring that feels too heavy, the one who just made coffee for one again—I am so sorry you are here.